pooja wrote:hi i am a hindu girl.iam married couple hindu and muslim. but my husband is very good because he does not allow me to go temples and pray to god.maine bhi kabhi socha tha ki mera husband mujhe bahut pyar..................
Poojajee, if you are truly experiencing the problem you have described here then my sympathies to you and thanks from everyone for highlighting the downside of such episodes. I hope your troubles will become a thing of past soon.
In one of the threads I encouraged someone venturing into it, but that was because their environment and background was different and more cosmopolitan. Morover I tried to ennumerate the issues they might face despite their background.
I am sure there are many inter religious marriages which are successfull. But it is also true that in majority of cases of inter religious marriage in India there will be continual pressure from the respective families of spouses to convert the other to their own religion. In addition to that Hindu-Muslim/Christian marriages take a unique tone of diadvantage for the hindu spouse.
Hindus overwhlemingly deal with inter religious marriage of an hindu by disowning (outcasting) him/her and thus the new couple will be completely cut off from the hindu spouse's family side. This might have to do with the practice that a hindu is always born into hinduism and never converted into hinduism.
Muslims/Christians to a large extent deal with the issue by continually enticing/motivating/educating/forcing the hindu spouse, predominantly that spouse is the woman, to convert to islam/christianity. This might have to do with the fact that conversion is very much accepted, tolerated, celebrated, and encouraged, religious edicts are very strong and the world is divided into fidels and infidels for christians and muslims.
This being the case, one should expect that if and as love recedes and religion precedes over time the hindu spouse would have lost parental/social/familial standings and muslim/christian spouse would start to feel the pressure from his/her side to convert his/her spouse. This will eventually lead the muslim/christian spouse to start pressuring the hindu spouse to read the kalma/bible and accept islam/christianity. How the pressure is handled obviously varies from person to person.
Unfortunately Pooja's example seems to be one of the many that take this kind of wrong turn post marriage.
Supriyajee, please look at the situation from multiple angles and make an educated choice. My best wishes to you.
