what are the advantages and disadvantages of each kind

[Arrange Or Love Marriage]

Although Western socities tend to deride arranged marriages as backward and uncivilized and primitive, there do exist positive aspects. For example, Westerners focus more on the physical aspect of relationships, and are thus obsessed with love, sex, beauty, etc. As a result, people get married based on these factors and then get disenchanted with one another very easily. The divorce rate in Western countries such as the U.S. has skyrocketed. […]In contrast, Eastern cultures that practice arranged marriages place far more emphasis on the practical, such as integrity, diligence, ambition, humility, generosity, etc. People get married based on practical reasons, and work on building affection later. Strong characteristics like the ones described above are very conducive to building love and affection in Eastern marriages. As a result, these marriages are much longer-lasting than many Western marriages (at least, based on what i’ve seen so far). It’s BECAUSE the primary emphasis is NOT on love, sex, and physical beauty that arranged marriages are usually so successful, because the spouses get to know one another on a practical level first, looking beyond trivial issues such as beauty or lack thereof.

And, of course, i know it can go both ways: there ARE many arranged marriages that are just total hell, and there are marriages that started out based only on infatuation and grew stronger as time passed. But I think as long one as looks for the right characteristics in a potential spouse, then, arranged marriage or not, ‘s all good.

lets see what our forum members have to say HONESTLY

[ustaad]

Love or arranged both is based on empathy, responsibility, commitment, love and concern. So it's not just about initial love and attraction it needs a lot of dedication and effort to sustain a marriage. So there is nothing like an ideal marriage it's all about the way you perceive your marriage. After all you should be happy with your life partner irrespective of love or arranged marriage.





http://weddings.iloveindia.com/features/love-and-arranged-marriages.html

[KK]

Although Western socities tend to deride arranged marriages as backward and uncivilized and primitive, there do exist positive aspects.

You betcha , afterall you dont have to struggle to find a gurl

[Sharjeel]

Topics been flogged to death.

[smack]

Go for an arranged marriage and keep having ur affairs.

[gyanster]

4 replies and only two votes?

[CtrlAltDel]

this topic has been beaten to death b4 in this DB. that cud explain the lack of interest.

[Niky]

only time will tell.. if ur in love with someone then u go for a love marriage..otherwise just let ur parents arrange it for u..and then u can think about falling in love..

[Cragg]

Same difference as that between





Suicide and convicted death sentence.( For men)



For women love marriage wud be more advantageous since they get one more reason to .............flog their men.

[Niky]

Same difference as that between


Suicide and convicted death sentence.( For men)

For women love marriage wud be more advantageous since they get one more reason to .............flog their men.

oh my godddd!! Cragg u knw us too well

[Cragg]

Thank god I didnt learn by real experience.

[Niky]

Thank god I didnt learn by real experience.

dont sound soo happy..i see ur days comin too

[Cragg]

wife: someone who'll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn't have had if you'd stayed single.

[Niky]

wife: someone who'll stand by you through all the trouble you wouldn't have had if you'd stayed single.

[Cragg]

Bachelors are a women away from umar qaid(life sentence)