muslim and hindu marriage

[supriya]

I am a hindu girl and my muslim boyfriend and I are planning to marry. Should i compulsorily convert my religion according to the Indian law or is it ok if we practise our own religions? wat religion will the kids get after they are born? Pl send ur views and opinions...

[Mungalla Ramakrishna]

I am a hindu girl and my muslim boyfriend and I are planning to marry. Should i compulsorily convert my religion according to the Indian law or is it ok if we practise our own religions? wat religion will the kids get after they are born? Pl send ur views and opinions...

If he loves you he converts his relligion and he will become hindu. Relligion must not be a hurdle in love matter. Your love story relates to bombay film.



Wishing you an early married life and successful love affair.





Your friend/wellwisher

[CtrlAltDel]

what religion both of u follow in this case has to be decided by u ppl in advance before marriage. settle this early to avoid future conflicts between u 2.



there is no law against spouses following seperate religions, but it has a potential to create problems in yr married life, esp after u have children. if u follow this course, both of you need to have a perfect understanding.



the easiest option wud be for one of you to convert to the other religion. this is also a big decision and can be traumatic if handled badly.



i wish u all the best!

[jquader]

well... to avoid probs after ur marriage one of u will hafta convert the religion n for u cant blindly go wid wut ur heart says u gotta b usin ur brains more... make a good study on both the religions n thn decide the 1 for ur future n for the future for ur kids!



well... Good Luck!!!

[maria]

i think u should not change ur religion and da childrens could be both, imean tell them 2 pray 4 allah and bagwaan,and da names 4 da childrens u could look at da names that r similar 2 hindu and muslim religion,4 exampal kiran and 4 da boy it could be sameer ,these r da names that r in hindu and in a muslim religion



all of da best

i wish u good luck



from maria(muslim)

[CtrlAltDel]

i think u should not change ur religion and da childrens could be both, imean tell them 2 pray 4 allah and bagwaan,and da names 4 da childrens u could look at da names that r similar 2 hindu and muslim religion,4 exampal kiran and 4 da boy it could be sameer ,these r da names that r in hindu and in a muslim religion

everyone cannot be Shahrukh-Gowri after marriage and such themes look good only in movies. in real life they wud have constant conflicts and a tuff time. as i had said before for such thing to workout as u say, there has to be a purrrrrfect understanding between the two.

[bharatiyudu]

Hey Supriya





Havent u saw film bombay. Well I dont think religion is a big hurdle. If u really want to get married and live together where the question of religion arises. Love has no religion . So dont think of these silly things.





Happy Married life

[bharatiyudu]

Hey ctrlaltdel



Changing of one's religion i think thats a bad 'advice' or 'advise' which one use? in this case (I am bit confused).

[CtrlAltDel]

Havent u saw film bombay.

exactly! this works well only in movies! think practically...you can detect innumerable hurdles in their married life. like i said, perfect understanding is needed here and it cannot be guaranteed for all.

[CtrlAltDel]

Changing of one's religion i think thats a bad 'advice' or 'advise'

why? religion is one's personal belief. if one of them feels like changing religion for a better married life, thats their business. but what i am against is forcing conversion thru blackmail or brainwashing.



abt 'advice' or 'advise', both are right, depending on usage. but i dont know which is the right usage in what context.

[Hindumuslim couple]

Supriya,



Nothing wrong in Marry a Muslim guy, one thing you should make it clear is, at any cost you should not convert your religion to muslim.



Infact Love Marriage is much better than Arrange marriage, as I am a practically experiencing this and as of your same case too (I am hindu and my betterhalf is muslim) . We are 2 years old married couple and do not face any problems in society, working place and especially between us.



We have to be more careful while handling both of your parents as the ego problem may start from them and the unnecessary simple comments may lead to a big issue.



Please go ahead with your decision , however pls make sure that your would be or his relatives will not compell you in furture to convert to muslim.



most of cases, guys (sometimes even girls) may change in their expressing not purposely , but due to the daily routine. We should manage it maturedly without thinking negatively (chances more in love marriage as they may try to be very good during love affair and I too experienced)



He doesnt have time to share my official matters . he may feel boring, (but 2 years back, he will listen if I talk more than 2 hours) I could understand that he is more responsible now and should take care of 2 families (his parents, and we two) The complete concentration is on his work rather than me. (he still loves me more, but doesnt have more time to express)



We should be (both the sex) should be more sportive and understand their bf



bye



good luck



Finally think about it and take your OWN DECISION (think about the parents also)



regards

hindumuslim[/i][/quote]

[Hindumuslim couple]

Supriya,



Nothing wrong in Marry a Muslim guy, one thing you should make it clear is, at any cost you should not convert your religion to muslim.



Infact Love Marriage is much better than Arrange marriage, as I am a practically experiencing this and as of your same case too (I am hindu and my betterhalf is muslim) . We are 2 years old married couple and do not face any problems in society, working place and especially between us.



We have to be more careful while handling both of your parents as the ego problem may start from them and the unnecessary simple comments may lead to a big issue.



Please go ahead with your decision , however pls make sure that your would be or his relatives will not compell you in furture to convert to muslim.



most of cases, guys (sometimes even girls) may change in their expressing not purposely , but due to the daily routine. We should manage it maturedly without thinking negatively (chances more in love marriage as they may try to be very good during love affair and I too experienced)



He doesnt have time to share my official matters . he may feel boring, (but 2 years back, he will listen if I talk more than 2 hours) I could understand that he is more responsible now and should take care of 2 families (his parents, and we two) The complete concentration is on his work rather than me. (he still loves me more, but doesnt have more time to express)



We should be (both the sex) should be more sportive and understand their bf



bye



good luck



Finally think about it and take your OWN DECISION (think about the parents also)



regards

hindumuslim[/i][/quote]

[jquader]

Supriya,

Nothing wrong in Marry a Muslim guy, one thing you should make it clear is, at any cost you should not convert your religion to muslim.

Infact Love Marriage is much better than Arrange marriage, as I am a practically experiencing this and as of your same case too (I am hindu and my betterhalf is muslim) . We are 2 years old married couple and do not face any problems in society, working place and especially between us.

We have to be more careful while handling both of your parents as the ego problem may start from them and the unnecessary simple comments may lead to a big issue.

Please go ahead with your decision , however pls make sure that your would be or his relatives will not compell you in furture to convert to muslim.

most of cases, guys (sometimes even girls) may change in their expressing not purposely , but due to the daily routine. We should manage it maturedly without thinking negatively (chances more in love marriage as they may try to be very good during love affair and I too experienced)

He doesnt have time to share my official matters . he may feel boring, (but 2 years back, he will listen if I talk more than 2 hours) I could understand that he is more responsible now and should take care of 2 families (his parents, and we two) The complete concentration is on his work rather than me. (he still loves me more, but doesnt have more time to express)

We should be (both the sex) should be more sportive and understand their bf

bye

good luck

Finally think about it and take your OWN DECISION (think about the parents also)

regards
hindumuslim[/i]

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ur case seems as if u both don't understand eachother's religion... as far as i know in neither of the religions these registered marriages are allowed... thus acc. to both the religions these type of "registered marriages" ARE NOT VALID!



one person converting himself/herself to another religion depends upon their own personal choice and understanding of that religion... u simply cant advice anyone not to go for any religion at any cost cuz it depends on her n if she understands the religion much better then she surely can go for it for a better future! otherwise in such marriages u both have to be atheistic for not creating any problems in ur married life.

[CtrlAltDel]

.... (I am hindu and my betterhalf is muslim) . We are 2 years old married couple and do not face any problems in society, working place and especially between us....

if that is true, u are very lucky and shows the depth of understanding between u and yr spouse. but keep in mind that only a few cases like yours succeed in reality, unless at least one of the two is an atheist.

[CtrlAltDel]

...as far as i know in neither of the religions these registered marriages are allowed... thus acc. to both the religions these type of "registered marriages" ARE NOT VALID!

civil registered marriages are not religious and do not need religious sanction. civil marriages allow any indian citizen to marry another (only man n woman of corz! ) without restriction. they are recognized by the law and thats sufficient.

[supriya]

hi ,

thank u for ur views and support... Actually we are getting married on Feb 3rd... and we need ur wishes for a happy and prosperous marriage... u can also send me pieces of advice... thanku...

supriya

[CtrlAltDel]

gr8! accept my best wishes!



have u given a month's notice at the registrar's office? this is mandatory for any civil marriage, unless it is preceeded by a traditional ceremony.

[Hyderabadi_Girl]

Dear Supriya,

Congrats on the news but may I please add my two-pence ?



Inter-religious marriages are delicate. I know of cases where, in a scenario such as this, most of the time, the hindu converts to Islam.

Like people on the DBs have said, its a personal choice, but I think as long as there is a very clear understanding between the partners, both of them can follow their respective faiths. Maybe the number of cases where this happens is very small but I think, ideally, this is how it should be. Converting out of compulsion or convenience should not be done because as someone said, changing one's religion is a big decision.



Children ? They come in later but as someone said, its best to discuss clearly with your partner, the religion that they will follow.



If your partner truly cares for you, he won't try and impose his religion on you and vice-versa.



Have a happy married life!

[pooja]

dear friend i am hindu girl and i married amuslim men. i really love him. lakin zindagi sirf love per nahi chalati hai. jab shaadi ho jayage tab wahi hota hai jo ladhka chhata hai. agar islam mano ki tho shaadi hai nahi to haram kahate

[kyun convert hona chhaiye]

I was born in a Hindu family and I married a Christian girl. Sometime after my marriage, I embraced Islam, but my wife did not. My Muslim friends advised me that my marriage was invalid. I, therefore, married a Muslim girl and I have a son by her. I did not have any children by my first wife. Recently, I saw your answer to a question in which you confirmed that a Muslim may marry a Christian or a Jewish girl. I have not had any relationship with my first wife for the last ten years, except writing letters and sending money to her. Should I rejoin her? Or does financial help constitute my only responsibility? Is it necessary to have a new marriage contract or is our marriage still valid? why should , kya yeh sahi hai. kya islaam hi hai aur kuch nahi pyar kuch nahi. kyun kahate hai ki yeh galat hai hindu ki shaadi kyun hindu hokar nahi ho sakati hai muslim kyun ho .

[jquader]

I was born in a Hindu family and I married a Christian girl. Sometime after my marriage, I embraced Islam, but my wife did not. My Muslim friends advised me that my marriage was invalid. I, therefore, married a Muslim girl and I have a son by her. I did not have any children by my first wife. Recently, I saw your answer to a question in which you confirmed that a Muslim may marry a Christian or a Jewish girl. I have not had any relationship with my first wife for the last ten years, except writing letters and sending money to her. Should I rejoin her? Or does financial help constitute my only responsibility? Is it necessary to have a new marriage contract or is our marriage still valid? why should , kya yeh sahi hai. kya islaam hi hai aur kuch nahi pyar kuch nahi. kyun kahate hai ki yeh galat hai hindu ki shaadi kyun hindu hokar nahi ho sakati hai muslim kyun ho .

u mite get better answers on http://www.free-minds.org/forum/

[pooja]

hi i am a hindu girl.iam married couple hindu and muslim. but my husband is very good because he does not allow me to go temples and pray to god.maine bhi kabhi socha tha ki mera husband mujhe bahut pyar karate hai. lakin aaj sirf yaad dilate hai kalama aur namaz . mai jab tak karauge tabhi sath mai huin. warana nahi kyunki agar main nahi karuge tho. vaha bhi shaadi karlange kyunki islaam main ashi shaadi ko invalid manate hai. kya yeh pyar hai . when we was friend then all okye. aaj woh islaam ki batay kahate hai .main kahate huin ki dharm insaano ke liye hai. insaan se jayada kuch nahi. vaha allah ko maan sakate hai lakin ram ko nahi, vedas ko maan sakate lakin krishana ko nahi, kalama hai there is no god but allah, kya god insaano ko alag karate hai. kyun hindu ladkiya convert hoti hai, muslim kyun nahi kyunki wo muslim law hai. agar muslim ladka bhi pyar karata hai tho convert kyun nahi ho sakata. why did i leave my mother father, sirf isliye ke mera humsafar mujhe samajhega. maine socha tha ki hum dono ek naye duniya banayage lakin yeh sirf sapano main hai accha lagata hai real zindagi main nahi hota hai. aaj mujhe 3 years ho chuke hai lakin jaha kitabo ki bate aati hai waha pyar dikhai bhi nahi deta. after marriage har insaan ek hi zindagi jeeta hai. love marriage alag nahi hote inter religious hone par sirf filghting karane padati hai dard hota hai jis insaan se pyar karata hai jab woh ladata hai. aaj mai sirf yaha kahana chahati huin ki shaadi karane hai karo lakin na khud convert ho na kisi ko convert karo. pyar ko pyar rahane dho dharm ke naam pe yeh kaam karna chode dena chhaiye. agar hum sochate hai ladko ko sirf ladki nazar aati hai. 50percant aaise hindu ladke hai joh muslim ladki ki id mai bhi kush hoge kyunki muslim ladke kya hindu biwi ke diwali banana pasant karate hai jawab apne se mil jayega. dost puri zindagi rone se accha hai ek din weeping kijaye roj roj nahi aaj hum apne mind aur dil aur insaaf kare apne sath kya hum apna future sahi kar sakate hai agar yeh humare liye sahi hai toh hai koi hindu ladki kisi muslim ladke se shaadi kare. agar aaj shaadi kar loge toh kal maire tarah sahi aur galat samajh jaoge. hum sochate hai aaj hum apne pyar ko chhode rahe hai kya yeh sahi hai. agar zindagi ko sirf rone ke liye chhoda hai tab tak sab sahi hai. ladkiya ek time ladati hai end mai ap khud haar maan logi.ap kuch bhi karane se pahale ek baar quran padana aur vedas bhi aur gita bhi. shaadi ka tarika bhi. sach jano dost god kya kahata hai. aur fatwa bhi, aur apne brother ki soch bhi aur us ladke ki bhi jisse ap shaadi karana chhaite hone.ek ladki ka dono ki zindagi mein kya matalab hai. kaun shaadi ke baad apki id aur diwali ke liye razi hota hai.

[Mayavi Morpheus]

Pooja, sweetie, you cant be both a Hindu guy who converted to Islam and a Hindu girl who married a muslim guy at the same time

First choose a gender if god has not given you one, and then go about giving unsolicited advices to others about inter-religious marriages.

I dont know what you are trying to prove by masquerading to a hindu girl married to a muslim man.



ps: When you post as different persons but use the same nick, hide your identity



pps: Do not write long posts in hindi using english alphabet. It is very difficult to read and comprehend.

[Mayavi Morpheus]

Ignore my post if the one by you two posts abvoe is a quote from a different website, which it seems to be.

[Akshay]

hi i am a hindu girl.iam married couple hindu and muslim. but my husband is very good because he does not allow me to go temples and pray to god.maine bhi kabhi socha tha ki mera husband mujhe bahut pyar..................

Poojajee, if you are truly experiencing the problem you have described here then my sympathies to you and thanks from everyone for highlighting the downside of such episodes. I hope your troubles will become a thing of past soon.



In one of the threads I encouraged someone venturing into it, but that was because their environment and background was different and more cosmopolitan. Morover I tried to ennumerate the issues they might face despite their background.



I am sure there are many inter religious marriages which are successfull. But it is also true that in majority of cases of inter religious marriage in India there will be continual pressure from the respective families of spouses to convert the other to their own religion. In addition to that Hindu-Muslim/Christian marriages take a unique tone of diadvantage for the hindu spouse.



Hindus overwhlemingly deal with inter religious marriage of an hindu by disowning (outcasting) him/her and thus the new couple will be completely cut off from the hindu spouse's family side. This might have to do with the practice that a hindu is always born into hinduism and never converted into hinduism.



Muslims/Christians to a large extent deal with the issue by continually enticing/motivating/educating/forcing the hindu spouse, predominantly that spouse is the woman, to convert to islam/christianity. This might have to do with the fact that conversion is very much accepted, tolerated, celebrated, and encouraged, religious edicts are very strong and the world is divided into fidels and infidels for christians and muslims.



This being the case, one should expect that if and as love recedes and religion precedes over time the hindu spouse would have lost parental/social/familial standings and muslim/christian spouse would start to feel the pressure from his/her side to convert his/her spouse. This will eventually lead the muslim/christian spouse to start pressuring the hindu spouse to read the kalma/bible and accept islam/christianity. How the pressure is handled obviously varies from person to person.



Unfortunately Pooja's example seems to be one of the many that take this kind of wrong turn post marriage.



Supriyajee, please look at the situation from multiple angles and make an educated choice. My best wishes to you.