CAD, you are really p-i-s-s-e-d off with the guy!!!
PH, I don't understand what's wrong with you. You first came to this board asking for advice on how to continue living peacefully with your wife and daughter without interference from your in-laws , if I understood correctly. Now, when your wife wants to come back to you, you are saying weird things like
I love my wife but I should not accept my wife's conditional love. As I don't want that love , if I accept her love my life will be full of pain.
In fact, I didn't even understand what you are trying to say.
What CAD said abt women and wimps are true to a large extent. To add to it, I'd say - in rare cases a woman might choose to marry a wimp because their motherly instincts are aroused and they thing: first, they can mould him and second, they might be able to make a big difference in his life and make his life better and make him happy etc. etc.
However, once married, if the woman finds the wimp still a wimp, she starts getting fed up. She might even ask other people, i.e. her parents to interfere because she thinks that the husband is, to put it mildly, practically a good-for-nothing.
Loving yourself is a good thing, everyone should do so, but drawing weird conclusions are silly and ridiculous.
I have started feeling that maybe we should do as Luci said, and kill the thread...