mango wrote:umm.. just a note. the bastard physically abused her. you think splitting up is the easy way out? it is actually the hard thing to do, albeit right for her as well as her child. what is "involving the elders" gonna do?
Bete! any society, when based on 'family and its values' has immense importance to its elders and their wisdom.
They 'could' have acquired this wisdom for the sheer reason of having lived a certain kind of life based on certain morals, values, beliefs and experiences. Just the ways you have become wiser from your 16th birthday to 17th and from 17th to todate.
Ofcourse, I do not certainly say every 17 year old or every elder will definetly have all the wisdom needed by everybody in every field at a given time!
Having made that clear to you:
'Help' would 'know' if her parents/in-laws or somebody from the enitre family have such a say where her husband can be made to see that he is going to loose his wife and child, if he continues his sick behaviour.
He will be all alone in this whole wide world. Nobody nice would want to be around him for the sick man that he is now and for the sicker man that he surely is going to get. If he is a sick man and with lots of money, then those of them who are similarly sick and want money will gather around him. Not for him !
'Help' is being physically abused by her own husband ! He is the one who is supposed to be protecting her: his wife, his child's mother, right? He is the one who is supposed to be a a standing example for his son ! But, what is he teaching his child ! Beating ! bad mouthing ! that money is more important than family !
If he does not get his act together, like yesterday, he will loose his family and his peace today onwards.
This is what a firm, strong elder might be able to put across to him without arguments and physical violence, hopefully?